So I was talking with my mentor yesterday about some areas of life I need to work on, and he pointed out some big shifts I’ve made so far — notably, losing a bunch of weight and becoming a runner (although, I’d argue working through the shitstorm of childhood trauma and the subsequent alcoholism was possibly more difficult 😜)
I don’t like to talk extensively about the time I was overweight, so I quickly said “it’s not hard to lose weight. You just have to stop thinking like a fat person.”
I know. “Whoaaaa what a c — -” you’re…
I know… That absolutely sounded like a sexual reference.
And to be fair, I’ve done my fair share of “lying there.” When I was 25, oh, man I’d fucking bend myself into a pretzel for a man. These days, I put so many miles on my body, I expect equal work for equal pleasure.
(Please laugh at my overt honesty. Sometimes it doesn’t translate in text.)
But back to the headline of this blog-
I’m taking a coaching course right now on neuro transformational coaching. …
A big thing a lot of my clients struggle with (and people struggle with in general) is comparing themselves and their individual journeys to the journeys of others.
I have to admit, I have been this way. I was this way for years.
If you knew me a decade ago, every time someone I knew would achieve some sort of “win,” I would feel this little tinge of anger inside.
The anger would usually be followed by a “well, that fucker probably grew up with money. They don’t know how hard I worked just to get out of that deadbeat…
As I sit here this morning, putting off editing Monday’s podcast (which is going to be a great one, by the way, for those of you who are looking to drink a little less,) I got to thinking about my senior year of undergrad when I interned at MTV in Series Development.
(I know, a weird past life.)
I didn’t have any money at the time (the ongoing theme of lack I once talked about,) so I worked at a barin Wilkes-Barre, Pennsylvania on the weekends to pay for my bus tickets. …
This week, I interviewed my college friend Stephanie Langner on my podcast about long-distance backpacking. She hiked the Appalachian Trail back in 2016 and has since sold her house, quit her job of 11 years, and in less than a month is about to fly to Seattle to begin her 2,600-mile thru-hike from Canada to Mexico on the Pacific Crest Trail.
Stephanie and I reconnected over COVID, believe it or not. It’s weird how life comes full-circle like that. We were always about a degree of separation back then, but a friendship never manifested. …
So, I don’t know how much you know about me, but I have a Master’s Degree in Sociology. I got that Master’s Degree because right after I moved to New York City, the 2008 recession happened, and it seemed like all the things in the fucking world were working against me.
It seemed like I had to fight so hard just to get to New York. I had a middle-class family, and nobody I was related to ever left Northeast Pennsylvania. I didn’t have a single friend who knew anything about moving to a global city. …
In late 2019, I got to go to the Middle East with my former job to open a restaurant.
The trip changed my life, but not because of why you might think.
I’d traveled quite a bit before then; I’d been to Continental Europe and all the usual stuff. I’d seen more than half of the 50 states in the U.S.
I loved to learn about people, so I studied Sociology. I also met people from all over the world every day working in Times Square.
When I heard about that trip, I hadn’t really done much with my life…
I’ve been working with clients for about six months now, but before that, I was informally coaching people for quite a while.
One of the things I notice to be the biggest hurdle is people’s concept of “the time” and how much of it they have.
Now, before I go on, I need to tell you that time and your perception of it are two very important things.
The time is static. It has been the same since the origins of everything. There are 365 days in a year, 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour, and…
I was thinking a lot this week about “relationships,” “friendships,” and “family” when it comes to changing your life.
One of the biggest things clients say to me when they’re trying to change one or many aspects of their lives is “well, I’m also in a relationship. Can I ask you about that?”
So, at the risk of you hating a bulleted list, people’s concerns normally are:
OK- here’s the hard…
I discovered in my Facebook Memories yesterday a post from 2014, which said “I’ve started running. What a wholly pleasurable experience.”
Looking at the original post, I saw the first comments were from a friend that said, “Is this for real” and “who are you?”
Now, there are a few things you have to know about me for this to make sense.
First, I was easily smoking a pack a day at the time, and I’d been smoking since I was in 8th grade. I swore like a sailor (and I still do,) and I was the typical chaotic New…