I’ve been working with clients for about six months now, but before that, I was informally coaching people for quite a while.
One of the things I notice to be the biggest hurdle is people’s concept of “the time” and how much of it they have.
Now, before I go on, I need to tell you that time and your perception of it are two very important things.
The time is static. It has been the same since the origins of everything. There are 365 days in a year, 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour, and 60 seconds in a minute. You learned about this when you were barely old enough to wipe your ass properly, and the concept stays static through the rest of your God-given days.
Your perception of the time, however, is something that you’ve created through your life.
I GET that most of you are here because you want to get healthier, and you’re probably like “what the fuck does this have to do with my weight loss” or any of that shit.
Well. Everything, honestly. Your perception of the time has everything to do with everything. But in this case, I’m mentioning it because many people love to use their lack of time as an excuse to not take care of themselves.
Yet, most successful people take their health and fitness very seriously.
Take for example, this article in Forbes, which states: One thing that most successful people have in common, is an uncompromising attitude about fitness and exercise. This is because fitness can instill in you the fundamental building blocks necessary for achieving success. It is safe to say that if you can not commit yourself to regular exercise, you will likely never reach your full potential. Countless successful people, from Fortune 500 CEOs to entrepreneurs and celebrities, have discovered the undeniable connection between fitness and success.
Getting a handle on your perception of the time is a major part of glowing up.
I used to think, for example, if I was going to take the 1:45 p.m. bus to go see my parents in Pennsylvania from Port Authority, that I had time to:
1. Wake up
4. Get to the bus
Now, I still take that bus to go see my parents, but my morning looks more like this:
1. Wake up
2. Have coffee and watch the news
3. Run 5 to 10 miles
5. Do laundry
6. Send emails
7. Get to the bus
There’s still the same amount of time that exists between now, and back when I only had time to …. maybe pack? So, what changed? How I trained my brain to interpret time.
It was the same thing as when I couldn’t manage to fit 15 miles of running per week into my work schedule. (In a flimsy 35-hour workweek.)
Even if I was running 10-minute miles back then, at a 10:00 minute mile pace, that’s only 2.5 hours of running per week. That’s less than 30 minutes of exercise per day.
Yet, I “didn’t have the time.” That was “just so much.”
It was bullshit.
I’m not trying to tell any of you that you’re lazy, or that I was lazy when this was happening.
I had simply not reconditioned my brain to think about the activity in relation to the time.
My perception of the activity was so much larger than it actually was. It was more difficult, so I associated it as something much “longer” because it was so much harder.
I also toppled down rabbit holes of “thinking” and “mentally preparing for the event.” That would occupy hours. And I did this shit with many things in my life.
Another example: I would make appointments into giant “events” that allegedly “took up so much time.” In reality, they didn’t take up time. My anxiety took up the time. The appointments were just… appointments.
When I got a handle on my anxiety, a 30-minute appointment, factoring in travel, and doctors’ insistence to always be late, would take about an hour and a half of my time. Before that, however, in my anxious years, a 30-minute appointment could suck up five hours.
If you want to get a better handle on the time, I would start with pen and paper. Keep track of where you spend your time. When you are going to exercise, and how much futzing do you do before it? Is it ten minutes? Or an hour and a half?
Another thing that I highly recommend doing is watching someone else who is doing it well.
I was feeling so inundated recently with my running schedule, and I thought I would need to cut my mileage.
Then, I started following a person on Strava who is running 90 to 100 miles per week, working full time, and going to school full time.
At what point is it not a lack of time on my part, but a lack of will?
It’s a hard question. I ask myself that every day. I’m comfortable enough with myself to ask, and ask again, and ask again.
Thoughts to ponder.
Originally published at https://www.getthefuckoff.com on April 2, 2021.